I couldn’t believe it! We were going to start trying for a baby at the end of that year so I was caught a bit off guard. I had no time to mentally prepare and I guess one is never really ready for a life altering thing as the birth of your first child, particularly a musician like myself. I had some decisions to make..

I have seen this happen and I’m sure whoever reads this has also seen the same. Quite a few people who are faced with a child on the way go into a phase or panic, thinking “I need to get serious, find or stay in a career and buckle down, because I need to support my kid”. I am no different. People will stay at a job or career that just isn’t what they should or want to be doing. It’s just easy to remain where they are regardless of the fact that the work they do does not move their soul.

When thinking about the reality of a baby on the way, I really felt some dread in my life and it was not the fact that a baby was coming. (she was a planned kid, just 8 months early) It was because I was a serious musician playing in a band, trying to make a career, but also working a decent paying  job that was really sucking the soul out of me. I did not want my kid growing up knowing that her dad decided to sell his soul, and work this job up into a career that he hated so he could pay the bills, and help provide for her. I wanted to Rock! Not give it all up. I wanted to show my kid that you should do in life what moves you and makes you happy. I wanted to come home with a smile, to greet her being happy and fulfilled. I did not want her to think that paying bills and having money, means that you need to settle for something that is not fullfilling.

I feel that if you do what moves your soul, everyday has purpose and meaning. The days will not become a blur, melting into unremembered weeks and years that slip by very quickly. There’s a Confucius saying that goes like this, “Choose a job you love and you will never work a day in your life”. How profound is that!!!

Here’s what I did.

The company I worked for was bought by a major competitor, so I figured there would be some layoffs. I spoke to my manager, informing her that if they decided to let go of some staff in our dept, they could choose me and not have to bring a box of tissues to the meeting. Anyone reading this is probably saying to themselves. “This guy is nuts, he has a baby on the way”. Well after 8 months they gave me and many others the handshake. Yahoo! I was free!

I was at this company for 10 years so the package they gave me was very sweet. It was a major mining company so they’re known for giving out nice packages. I promptly took  a contract at Ryerson University, which completely cemented the fact that I hated the office working environment with all it’s politics and poison personality people. I finished the contract and split. I couldn’t get out fast enough.

I toiled around for a year on EI benefits while I was deciding what I wanted to do, but I always new in the back of my mind that I should be teaching people how to play the drums. I have taken lessons and played for 17 years, I taught drum lessons at “Just Drums” in Toronto for a while, I had always taught friends and other musicians how to play drum grooves and fills, I had decent people skills, and the patience that is needed to impart knowledge that can be a real challenge to explain.

I applied and was accepted into a government program at the “Toronto Business Development Centre”. This program helps you to become an entrepreneur, helping you with a business plan, marketing, funding, and really helping to take the fear out of being self employed. I needed this kind of help as I had seen my parents go bankrupt on more than one occasion and the thought of being self-employed came with a certain amount of fear.

In the spirit of trying not to ramble and keep this blog short, I successfully completed the program, opened up Downbeat drum studio in my home, and now I have a really nice roster of students that I teach how to play the drums. I’m quite happy, fulfilled and I am sure my little kid can sense that. Mission accomplished. I am still building my lesson roster, paying my bills, I make my own schedule, and have a lot of personal time to do what I want. I am quite lucky to be doing what my heart requires for me to be happy. With all this said..

Do what makes you happy. Even if it requires some risk. There’s a big chance that you will not be dis-appointed. Look at me. I am living proof of that.

Peace!

When learning drumming, the tendency to rush things and play fast and want to play beyond your ability is very common. We always want to learn it now, learn it fast, without taking the time to play slowly and really be mindful of our physical motions. I feel this can actually slow down the process of learning to play the drums. So many times I have tried to play things fast and had slow and poor results but when I listened to my teachers who say “play everything at extremely slow tempos” I found that when I eventually increased the tempo after practicing very slowly for a decent amount of time, things worked out better. By slowing down, I allowed my body to actually get inside the movement or motion of the drumming exercises that I was working on. It’s kind of like allowing your body to accept the feeling of the motions. Telling your mind to allow your body to accept the motions or feelings of the drumming exercise is a concept that my current drum teacher always hammers home.

Another way to look at this, is your muscles have memory and it takes time to work through physical motions before your muscles become accustomed to the movements. Nothing illustrates this better than the movie The Karate Kid. For those of you who were kids in the 80′s would remember this. The Karate Kid was told by Mr. Miyagi (his karate teacher) to wash and wax around 15 cars. He was told to put soap on the car with the right hand and wash it off with the left hand in a circular motion. Then after that was done he was told to wax the cars, by putting the wax on with the left hand in a circular motion, then taking the wax off with the right hand in a circular motion “wax on, wax off”. At the end of all the cars being cleaned and waxed the Karate Kid was losing his mind. He had just gone through the motions of committing a movement to muscle memory in a slow and repeated way that took hours but he could not see the value in doing that. The Karate Kid started screaming at Mr. Miyagi, complaining that he felt like a slave and that he couldn’t understand what this had to do with learning karate. Mr. Miyagi then began to throw punches at the Karate Kid and the Karate Kid was able to block these punches with the same motions that he had just spent all day learning while cleaning and waxing the cars. He was blocking these punches with ease and a lot of speed.

Drumming is very similar to this in that let’s say you take a six stroke roll R l l r r L R l l r r L and play it very very slowly with the accents (which are the capital letters) at 90 degrees in height from the snare drum or pad, and play the non-accents (lower case letters) one inch from the snare or pad, this rudiment will sound very solid and have a nice rolling effect. This is hard to achieve if you don’t practice real real slow, allowing your muscles in your fingers and wrists to get inside or connected to the movement of the accents, non-accents, and strokes. You can waste a lot of time by blasting away at rudiments, drum feels and drum beats too quickly and not allowing your body to accept and gain the muscle memory of the physical motions that you’re putting it through.

I had assumed that because I was male and teaching from my home, females would not be inclined to call me, because of fears of being alone in a studio with a young guy. As well, drumming seems to be a male dominated art.

Man was I wrong…..

I currently have a 75% female student roster and building. So what’s going on girls? Are you finally showing the dudes that you can do it better? or at least as good?

I wanted to find out why I have so many women wanting to Rock! the drums, so I asked all my female students why they want to play and why they chose me over countless other guys that are out there. (By the way, I have yet to see any women teachers out there in web land).

First off a big consensus was that drum stores/shops are a place where women are not treated like knowledgeable thinking people by the mostly male staff. These drum shops can be very intimidating and many females can’t imagine buying/talking about drum gear or taking lessons in a place with this type of atmosphere.

I think drum shops may want to think about the female consumer because that’s who are buying cars, clothes and condos etc…

One thing mentioned was when they called me for lessons they liked the friendly vibe I gave off and my studio was not in some scary warehouse down an alley, or in a dark nasty basement somewhere uptown. Kudos for me. But i think what matters most is when they have a lesson they feel like there is some care taken in structuring and teaching the lesson to their interests and goals as well as being treated with respect and dignity. It’s not about me and what I can do as a player/teacher. It’s about the student, and what they envision for their learning and playing needs.

Two of my students told me that when sourcing out a teacher they were actually being asked out on a date. Crazy!!! and not good. I have a baby daughter and i hope she never has to worry about getting picked up by her piano teacher.

A few of my students said they always wanted to get into a band or they like the physicality of it all but felt they wanted to learn right from the basics and until they saw my ad or website they just hadn’t taken the next steps of finding the teacher buying the drums etc. Another issue, was never before has there been the ability to play in an apartment or condo until the last few years. I mean there has been electronic drums since the 1970′s but they were crappy and expensive. Today there is a ton of electronic drum sets out there by companies like Roland and Yamaha etc that have come out with drums that sound amazing and have sensitivity on the snare and an all around great sounding/feeling set up for learning to play. People are now living out their desire to learn the drums without having the cops shut them down 9pm.

With that said…. (time for me to shut the hell up)

My female students are quick learners eager to learn everything and have the patience to absorb and go through the physical muscle memory motions that is required to play drums…. And play them well. I’m very lucky to be teaching these women because they teach me humility, respect and wisdom as well as patience for explaining things that sometimes are quite difficult to impart. They help me be a better teacher. Thanks so much guys.oops I mean gals…

Look out dudes the women are kicking some major drumming ass!!!!

I’ll include some links to some cool female drummers that are out there.

See ya!

www.cindyblackman.com

www.terrilynecarrington.com

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patty_Schemel

www.drummergirl.com